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4160 days ago

Linda H and Elsie AVR 9/19/12 posted a note for paula that says:

Hi Paula, I to had the same problem, but mine was in the hospital. After I got out of ICU they drained 2 litres out of my lungs. He did tell me it was very ...Read more

Hi Paula, I to had the same problem, but mine was in the hospital. After I got out of ICU they drained 2 litres out of my lungs. He did tell me it was very common. I was ok after that. Glad you are doing good. Life is good and God is even better than life. Take care

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4160 days ago

Jackie keys posted a note for paula that says:

Your story sounds just like mine. I to read Adam's book, so I knew what expect which really helped me. I also developed water around the lungs, which you say ...Read more

Your story sounds just like mine. I to read Adam's book, so I knew what expect which really helped me. I also developed water around the lungs, which you say us common. Nt surgery was two weeks ago tomorrow. My only problem is getting the Meds adjusted. They gave me a diuretic pill which lowered my bp down way to far. My walking has not been good, the shortest of breathe stopped me from doing a lot, but thus week I am going to kick butt and ,ove on.

paula Murphy hi, I had trouble walking up steps when I first came home and it was as bad or worse than before i we ... Read more

paula Murphy hi, I had trouble walking up steps when I first came home and it was as bad or worse than before i went in. But the good news was that as soon as the water around my lungs got absorbed or wherever it went I could breathe so much better and now I run up steps and don't even think about it. (Well i think about it sometimes. I am always giving myself tests to make sure I breathe okay haha i am so over serious about everything!!) so good luck with your recovery. Really it is just getting rid of the water and after you get you medicine adjusted and get your confidence back you will feel like new in no time.

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4646 days ago

Hi, Paula -- Be gentle with yourself, okay? it\'s absolutely normal to have bouts of inexplicable sadness or tears...I\'m 2 months out and just yesterday ...Read more

Hi, Paula -- Be gentle with yourself, okay? it\'s absolutely normal to have bouts of inexplicable sadness or tears...I\'m 2 months out and just yesterday I felt like weeping. It just happens. We\'ve been through a LOT -- I call it a full body hard reset! It\'ll take time before everything gets back to normal. Just do what you can and listen to your body. Selma Kaplan

paula Murphy thank you for your words of encouragement. Yes I will try and be gentle to myself. I am such a doer ... Read more

paula Murphy thank you for your words of encouragement. Yes I will try and be gentle to myself. I am such a doer that I feel so couped up now but I do not feel ready to go out at all yet. So i will use the computer, read but tv isn't that interesting any more. Thanks again.

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4646 days ago

Paula, I had a bout of something similar in the hospital. An overwhelming feeling of anxiousness and \"get these ***** tubes out of me and get me out of here\" ...Read more

Paula, I had a bout of something similar in the hospital. An overwhelming feeling of anxiousness and \"get these ***** tubes out of me and get me out of here\" on about the third day. With the help of better living through science (drugs) and just accepting my situation I finally calmed down and went to sleep. Just letting you know that everyone has their rough patches.. Trent V

paula Murphy Thank you. That was funny. Adam's book has a sentence in it that made my family and I laugh too It ... Read more

paula Murphy Thank you. That was funny. Adam's book has a sentence in it that made my family and I laugh too It said your significant other may be overwhelmed with new responsibilities and caring for an agitated patient. Our first three days home were soooooo chaotic. HAHA

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4647 days ago

Hi Paula- Please try to stay positive. It is normal that we may cry for no reason. You don\'t go through something so traumatic everyday, or sometimes never ...Read more

Hi Paula- Please try to stay positive. It is normal that we may cry for no reason. You don\'t go through something so traumatic everyday, or sometimes never in your life. It is both physically and mentally exhausting and challenging. My first couple/few weeks found me napping 1-2 times daily and really not doing much of anything except light cooking and dishes. The next couple/few weeks have found me doing more; vacuuming, light gardening and cardiac rehab. At nearly 7 wks out I still do not feel 100% better, but in following up with the docs, controlling my exertion and being patient I am sure it will come. Take care, stay positive. If you need to post thoughts that aren\'t always upbeat that is what this site is here for-venting and support, not just the good feelings. Karen Campo

paula Murphy Thank you for your kind words. You sound like you are doing so well. It does help to share with peo ... Read more

paula Murphy Thank you for your kind words. You sound like you are doing so well. It does help to share with people who understand.

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4648 days ago

Paula, please try not to be discouraged. You have been through a BIG surgery. The pain of surgery is not an indicator of just how big it was! Hang in there, ...Read more

Paula, please try not to be discouraged. You have been through a BIG surgery. The pain of surgery is not an indicator of just how big it was! Hang in there, each week gets better. I am 4 months out and I still get \"weepy\" some days. This is normal as long as there are positive days thrown in there too, lol. Just remember how fortunate and blessed we are that we could be \"fixed\". I will keep you in my prayers. God bless! Linda Dixon, AVR 3/13/12

paula Murphy Thanks for your encouragement. It really means a lot.

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4648 days ago

Hi Paula - don\'t expect too much out of yourself - this has been a very big deal. Hang in there - I hope you see improvement every day! Take care, Vicki ...Read more

Hi Paula - don\'t expect too much out of yourself - this has been a very big deal. Hang in there - I hope you see improvement every day! Take care, Vicki D.

paula Murphy Thanks. I feel better today than yesterday.

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4648 days ago

Hey Paula, Just hang in there. With any kind of surgery it is rough getting back. I havent been to this place yet, except a hysterectomy 11 years ago.That was ...Read more

Hey Paula, Just hang in there. With any kind of surgery it is rough getting back. I havent been to this place yet, except a hysterectomy 11 years ago.That was horrible recoverying from that also. You will do fine. Everyday will get better. Just listen to your body and dont over do cause you will pay for that. Just go slow but a little more everyday and then you will be there. One day at a time. Good luck to you. For the long haul Linda H

paula Murphy Hi thanks for the encouraging words. Let us know when you need help.

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4648 days ago

Hi Paula.. I am not scheduled for surgery until next Tuesday, so I cannot relate just yet to what you are going through with OHS. I do know, however, from ...Read more

Hi Paula.. I am not scheduled for surgery until next Tuesday, so I cannot relate just yet to what you are going through with OHS. I do know, however, from previous surgeries that it is very hard to be as weak as a kitten. But this too shall pass. You will find yourself becoming stronger & stronger day by day. From the other posts here it seems like week 3 is a real \"turn the corner kinda week\".....stay strong as you take this hurdle one day at a time. The end result will be well worth a few weeks of being weak & uncomfortable...and feeling totally helpless. Your family loves you.....they want you to be well....to do that requires time and much healing....I will pray God keeps his loving arms around you as you continue your journey to a healthier life.....We are all here for you! Heres to a better day tomorrow, and the day after that.....and the day after that...and so on....and so on! Remember...slow & steady....slow & steady... Keep the Faith! Connie T

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4664 days ago

Happy Birthday! You are almost over the hump. Late Thursday or so, when you wake up you will be so happy. Time to start getting excited. -- DVB

paula Murphy Thank you for the encouragement. It really does help.

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4664 days ago

Happy Birthday Paula and will be thinking about you as you go through this. I can\'t decide if I wish it were time for my surgery so I would feel better or ...Read more

Happy Birthday Paula and will be thinking about you as you go through this. I can\'t decide if I wish it were time for my surgery so I would feel better or just glad I don\'t have to do it yet. Take care, Vicki D.

paula Murphy I must say I did kind of like it when I still had lots of time. However now it is close and since tha ... Read more

paula Murphy I must say I did kind of like it when I still had lots of time. However now it is close and since that is the way it is I will try and be excited. the mometum is picking up and I feel it. three more days!

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4665 days ago

Happy Birthday Paula. May you have many many more of them. Now you will have a new birthday so you can celabrate twice next year. You will do just fine. It ...Read more

Happy Birthday Paula. May you have many many more of them. Now you will have a new birthday so you can celabrate twice next year. You will do just fine. It will be harder on the family. I have been there and its know fun. I found just say prayers it works. Hang in there and stay strong. For the long haul Linda H

paula Murphy I like that idea of celebrating twice. May as well make it a week long celebration!!! thank you . I ... Read more

paula Murphy I like that idea of celebrating twice. May as well make it a week long celebration!!! thank you . I will keep praying. I have a holy card given to me by a lady from Mexico and Im going to get it blessed tomorrow.thanks for your kind words.

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4666 days ago

My fingers were going faster than my brain. I think they were dancing around on the key board. Anyway wrapping the cane around someone is better than killing ...Read more

My fingers were going faster than my brain. I think they were dancing around on the key board. Anyway wrapping the cane around someone is better than killing him. You might need him after surgery to help out a little bit. Have a good day. For the long haul Linda H

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4667 days ago

Hi Paula, Good going. People who have not been there just dont know. I experienced it thru my daughters surgery 3 years ago. Im with you on your husband but ...Read more

Hi Paula, Good going. People who have not been there just dont know. I experienced it thru my daughters surgery 3 years ago. Im with you on your husband but think I would have said it would wrap it around him. My cardio doctor kept saying to quit worrying. Evne my husband was chiming in with them. I told him the next one that told me to quit worrying, I was going to punch them out. Enough is enough. Im not worried about what I am facing at least not yet. You have a good day and dont listen to those people. You wil be fine, then a whold lot of people will be eating their words. For the long haul Linda H

paula Murphy Hi Linda, I just sat here and laughed out loud. that was funny about wrapping it around him, not a ba ... Read more

paula Murphy Hi Linda, I just sat here and laughed out loud. that was funny about wrapping it around him, not a bad idea. Really I haven't told too many people because I can't take the comments. My daughter got me a library book about a doctor who had the surgery in his own hospital. he said you can really tell a lot about who is really trying to help by what they say. He was kind of shocked so I decided to tell only my closest family and friends. so far so good except the cane comment from my husband. So I'm going to keep a low profile. Thanks for writing Paula

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4667 days ago

Paula, love, love, love what you told your husband about the cane! You will do fine with your surgery....too much spunk not to, lol. The only opinions that ...Read more

Paula, love, love, love what you told your husband about the cane! You will do fine with your surgery....too much spunk not to, lol. The only opinions that count = yours and the surgeons. Hang in there, the hard part (waiting) is almost over. Linda Dixon, AVR 3/13/12

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4670 days ago

Yeah, smart to do it before symptoms start slowing you down. With symptoms it will be harder and odds not as good. Now you are strong and can be excited about ...Read more

Yeah, smart to do it before symptoms start slowing you down. With symptoms it will be harder and odds not as good. Now you are strong and can be excited about getting it over with and recovered. But first let that cry come out. Don\'t worry about it, it seems to be part of the plan. Peace -- DVB

paula Murphy Thanks now only 8 days I check in on wed for pre testing and am staying overnight for the operation o ... Read more

paula Murphy Thanks now only 8 days I check in on wed for pre testing and am staying overnight for the operation on thurs since Im from Pa. Really I can't wait. thanks again for your encouragement! now I need to stop whining and muster up my own store of courage and optimism. I'm usually good at it.

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4672 days ago

Hi Paula, Sounds like you are ready to get to the other side of the mountain. You will do fine. And its ok to get emotional. I think all of us have. I have ...Read more

Hi Paula, Sounds like you are ready to get to the other side of the mountain. You will do fine. And its ok to get emotional. I think all of us have. I have and I am still waiting. I will probably get that way when I have stress test done on the 5th. lol. Just let it all come out as it will relieve a lot of stress. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Does your leader at weight watchers know that you are having surgery? The whold group will be there for you and support you. Good luck and keep us all posted. For the long haul Linda H

paula Murphy Hi, Thanks for writing! It just sounds like you know how I'm feeling. That makes me feel happy to sh ... Read more

paula Murphy Hi, Thanks for writing! It just sounds like you know how I'm feeling. That makes me feel happy to share it. Today was a better day. I got a lot of stuff done. Finances, cleaning etc so I feel good. Now I will watch the bachelor. HAHA sometimes tv just doesn't know how important it is. Mindless is so good at this time. thanks for helping.

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4672 days ago

Hey Paula. Sounds like you are walking a well-trod path. Know that you are being smart in getting your surgery now, it\'s a gift of life to you and your family. ...Read more

Hey Paula. Sounds like you are walking a well-trod path. Know that you are being smart in getting your surgery now, it\'s a gift of life to you and your family. Their perspective is different: they are in the throes of the day-to-day and you are facing heart surgery. Peace -- DVB

paula Murphy hi, Yes I can see the difference. thanks for writing. Also I wish I could have a good cry but I am j ... Read more

paula Murphy hi, Yes I can see the difference. thanks for writing. Also I wish I could have a good cry but I am just too thankful to be so sad. I can maybe get better. However I'm sure a good cry is coming I get close but then it just doesn't happen. I just don't have many signs other than shortness of breath on hills or steps. My life is happy like this. I can do most things. But I do not want to get worse. My cardiologist says get help now while you still can. So I've decided to do it. I know twelve days is not so long but right now it seems like it. Nice to talk to you. Paula

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4672 days ago

Hi Paula, just don\'t retreat too far into yourself. The next 12 days will fly by and I won\'t be surprised if you experience many different emotions, I certainly ...Read more

Hi Paula, just don\'t retreat too far into yourself. The next 12 days will fly by and I won\'t be surprised if you experience many different emotions, I certainly did. I was alone much of the time and sometimes you just want to talk about what you are facing, but even though they may have the best intentions, only those who have \"walked in your shoes\" truly understand. So...reach out to your HVJ family...that\'s what we\'re here for! Linda Dixon AVR 3/13/12

paula Murphy Thank you Linda. I do appreciate the support. My family just wants it to be over so it is hard to t ... Read more

paula Murphy Thank you Linda. I do appreciate the support. My family just wants it to be over so it is hard to talk to any of them. So thank you it is nice to have someone to talk to who understands.

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4672 days ago

Hi Paula, I will be thinking of you on the 28th and before, as I agree the waiting is hard. I also feel a little uncomfortable receivinghelp but I\'m so thankful ...Read more

Hi Paula, I will be thinking of you on the 28th and before, as I agree the waiting is hard. I also feel a little uncomfortable receivinghelp but I\'m so thankful so many kind family and friends are so willing and eager to help. I will look forward to reading about your journal entries and pray you have a very smooth and successful surgery. Mollie

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4686 days ago

Hi Paula- Welcome to HVJ. Here I think you will find some great support to help you through this incredible journey. While we do have our family and friends ...Read more

Hi Paula- Welcome to HVJ. Here I think you will find some great support to help you through this incredible journey. While we do have our family and friends by our side those friends we meet here know first hand the emotions prior to and after the surgery as well as the physical feelings. I too found myself scared, apprehensive, optomistic. A lot of mixed emotions. For me everything I thought would be scary or bad did not turn out to be as terrible as I thought if that is all reassuring. I do think the recovery, for me at least, may be some time, but I will take that needed time having had pneumonia last month and severe congestive heart failure. I have a lot to build back up. Good luck and I will watch for your journals. Karen Campo

paula Murphy Hope you are feeling better!! I still go through many emotions. I will just think I am fine and read ... Read more

paula Murphy Hope you are feeling better!! I still go through many emotions. I will just think I am fine and ready and I will read something and it throws me. But then I really want it to happen so then I worry about that. Oh dear can't wait til day after!!!! Then I will have to recover. Buying myself a mini frig for upstairs and a grab and grip claw to pick things up. I hate to ask for help. Tell me if you know of anything else that would help me.. thanks. nice to meet you!!

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4686 days ago

Hi Paula and welcome to HVJ. I am with you too. I joined Weight Watchers to loose weight for getting ready. You and I are in recovery before the big date. Nothing ...Read more

Hi Paula and welcome to HVJ. I am with you too. I joined Weight Watchers to loose weight for getting ready. You and I are in recovery before the big date. Nothing like doing things backwards. I have 4 more pounds to go before goal, then I wait. I have aortic stenosis/regurgitation and anuersym and am just waiting. So that is worse not knowing when this all will happen. I hope soon as I am tired of the symtoms that I have. But we will do this. I wish you luck. Where are you going to have your surgery? Keep us all posted and I will keep up with you. Good luck For the long haul Linda H

paula Murphy Hi Linda, that is wonderful that you only have 4 pounds to go. I lost 20 but still have10 more to re ... Read more

paula Murphy Hi Linda, that is wonderful that you only have 4 pounds to go. I lost 20 but still have10 more to reach my own goal. I quit for 4 weeks when I found out I had to have surgery. I had started weight watchers 4 weeks previous to my diagnosis. I have been faithfully exercising 3 times a week for 2 years and felt very mad that I was doing all I could and then I got the diagnosis. I'm ok about it now. I just had to work through it myself. Back at weight watchers again. I'm going to Mt. Sinai for my surgery completely on the recommendation of my cardiologist. I love it there. Very efficient so far and clean. I really like organization. so I can't wait to go on the 28th. Reading all I can about the procedure so I won't be as scared. Take care. Nice to talk to you. Paula

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4687 days ago

Hi, Paula You will hear this over & over again: \"The waiting is the hardest part!\" But, it didn\'t mean much to me either until after surgery. I\'m 6 weeks ...Read more

Hi, Paula You will hear this over & over again: \"The waiting is the hardest part!\" But, it didn\'t mean much to me either until after surgery. I\'m 6 weeks shy of celebrating one year ago having my aortic valve replaced. It was was breeze. I was back to work doing massages after 8 weeks. (Don\'t tell anybody, but I was driving, kayaking and mowing my lawn at 4 weeks). I look forward to following your journey pre & post op. Who will be there with you during your surgery & after? You are on a great site and will get lots of support. Please keep us informed and please ask anything you want to know. We are a wealth of experience....now. Sheila Garrison - Apple valley, CA

paula Murphy Hi, Thank you for your encouraging comments. My husband and one daughter will be with me. Then my ... Read more

paula Murphy Hi, Thank you for your encouraging comments. My husband and one daughter will be with me. Then my son and other daughter will come day 3 and 4. I really like to depend on myself but this is one time I need them, I admit. I feel like I am somewhat more impatient than usual with my family. Oh well they can't tell I hope.

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4687 days ago

Hi Paula, welcome to the HVJ site. I had my aortic valve replaced 10 weeks ago. I can promise you that as far as aortic valve replacement surgery is concerned ...Read more

Hi Paula, welcome to the HVJ site. I had my aortic valve replaced 10 weeks ago. I can promise you that as far as aortic valve replacement surgery is concerned (at least for me) the waiting was much worse than the surgery itself. I did amazingly well, very little pain and that never got over a 6 to 7 on a scale of 1 to 10. They give you very, very good drugs. Even the dreaded breathing tube was not bad for me. I knew I would probably awaken while it was still present and I did. But I was prepared for it and therefore I was not afraid. Actually, it was sort of comforting, for I knew then that I had survived, lol. It seems like it was only minutes before they removed it. You will be amazed at how quickly you recover. I suspect mitral valve surgery is not the same as aortic, so I speak only of my experience, but I also imagine heart surgery is pretty much heart surgery. Try not to worry too much. Just remember...everyone says that the waiting is the hardest part and I completely agree. Take care and hang in there. Linda Dixon, AVR 3/13/12

paula Murphy Thank you for answering me. It is really helpful and comforting to hear from others who have or will ... Read more

paula Murphy Thank you for answering me. It is really helpful and comforting to hear from others who have or will go through the same kind of thing.

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4687 days ago

Hi Paula, Some people say the anxiety waiting for the surgery is worse than the surgery itself...so it entirely possible you\'ll breeze through. either way, ...Read more

Hi Paula, Some people say the anxiety waiting for the surgery is worse than the surgery itself...so it entirely possible you\'ll breeze through. either way, you need it done, so there\'s no sense fretting about it. I\'ll let you know....my surgery is Monday 6/4 nancy B

paula Murphy Thanks and you are soooo lucky it is Monday. Take care and write soon.