Patricia's Journal

Steven Methot  Patricia,  I have several physical abnormalities, let's just put it that way.  I was born  without cartilage in the top part of one of my ears and had to have plastic surgery.  My rib cage is quite pronounced, I guess you could say that I am barrel chested.  I didn't stop growing when I should have and my legs and arms are out of proportion to my body.  When thin I look like a scarecrow.  None of that ever ever proved to be an impediment to finding love and by that I don't mean just the physical stuff.  I had a very poor self-image, and I thought that my appearance would put anyone off, but to my surprise it never NEVER did, or at least it didn't matter to the people that matter.  I have been married to the love of my life for over 30 years and we have two wonderful children.  My abnormalities aren't me.  Your scar isn't you.  You WILL find someone to whom the scar won't matter - you will matter to them.

Marie Myers  If your scar turned him away, then he is not for you…Be patient to meet the right person. Have faith that it will happen!

Klara Čičić  Dear lovely Patricia, Steven and Marie said it all so well. Thank you Steven for such a valuable lession from your story. Patricia love yourself, love your scar, and someone worth your love will come along we are here for the support!

rich monoson  Two heartaches fixed with one procedure! This amazing lifesaving procedure is a blessing. This surgery has provided you have a wonderfully functioning heart........with another benefit of eliminating something in your life you probably did not need. 

Rose Madura  I am speechless about what happened. You will find someone who loves you unconditionally. Don't ever give up.

Rita Savelis  So sorry you have to go through this. It is still so very early. Sleeping can be so hard after OHS. I hear you. It gets easier eventually, but there are difficult weeks to get through when you think you won't. It might help to sleep propped up a bit (for your breathing). I normally never take sleep aids, but occasionally I asked for something because my body (and my soul) needed sleep in order to heal. Thanks for sharing exactly how it feels. Putting words on the difficulties can make them better. Take care Patricia.

Marie Myers  I had trouble sleeping in the early part of recovery also. Lots of 1:00 am TV watching was going on at my house. I listened to lots of Utube meditations, and I found them helpful. It does get better, bit by bit. Don’t lose hope, things will Improve. Hang in there!

Mike Tirrell  It gets better. Week #1 was awful for me, very little sleep. Once I was able to roll a little bit onto my side it got much better. I have an adjustable bed which helped, also slept a little in my recliner. I also would take my pain medication (tylenol) about 15 minutes before I would go to bed so I could rest as comfortably as possible. Hang in there, it will get better.

Tracy Fallu  Sleeping is definitely an issue and can be nerve racking. One thing that helped me was to sleep when I was tired and not worry about the time of day or night.

Jay Heagerty  Patricia, you will start being able to sleep better after about 2 weeks. I am in week 7since surgery and once you an sleep the healing goes a lot faster. Best of luck to you.

Susan Lynn  I agree with Tracy! Forget about the clock for awhile. Sleep whenever you need to and find something to do when you wake up during the night. You'll eventually get back to a regular sleep routine, but until then, the short naps will keep you going! Hang in there!

  I used a wedge and it helped. Agree with all the rest, sleeping after surgery was hard but took naps here and there. It does get better with time. Hang in there, you are in recovery and that was the big step now just be patient as days go buy you will get normal sleep. God bless you

Tim Tschumper   Hard to sleep in the hospital, too much going on and blood checks every 3-4 hours. It will get better as you gain strength. Sleep when you can day or night. Close your door to minimize distractions. Peace and Strength in the days ahead.

John Mohr  Definitely use as many pillows around you as possible and lay more elevated if you can. I listened to music a lot when I couldn’t sleep. It will get better - hang in there!

Patricia Garner  Dear Community. I awe that you took time to answer. Week 4 Thank you encouragers!!😘. Yes having rest and Healing is a Miracle. I am so amazed how many thing’s are all about the Heart. I am learning moderation. My body especially my Face breaks out after I have eaten sugar and processed foods. I wondered is anyone else getting chemical burns or sensitivity to Foods and environmental effects on skin. Thank you so much for your kindness