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Sanya, so sorry you don't have the support at home you need😐Could you get home health care visits? I can say that I used to know how it felt to have health issues and having a bad marital situation, but not now..as my husband of 26 years has been a rock for me. But, if you can't lean on him , can you rally any other family members? Don't be afraid of getting a cold, I have ne now and I'm okay! I was afraid too.. and I know it's tough. I hope you'll be feeling better soon. If you get syncope my doctor said squeeze your legs together and your arms (like crossing your legs and squeeze) helps the blood get back up to your head. Also, I take my metoprolol when my blood pressure isn't too low, like 100/80 so, just a bit later than early morning. I hope you can find a way to rally your spirits and know you're not alone ❤️ Even if my husband wasn't as lovely as he is, though I'm sure I'd be awfully shaken and down, I know my faith in God would help keep me going.. don't overthink too much, do the best you can each hour. I don't seem to get much done during my day, but I feel like at the end I'm alive! Hang in there, Praying your health gets better❤️Best Regards and concern☀️️

Sanya, I am sorry to hear about your problems. As far as your husband,my initial reaction is "what a jerk". I know that there can be be underlying issues that cause people to act the way they do. Is there anyone whom he trusts that you could have explain to him how important his support is to your recovery? If not, please rely on supportive friends, relatives, etc. Also, try not to let him get you down. Keep positive if you can. Try not to reward him by getting into arguments, etc. I hope it gets better for you soon. Keep us posted.

Sanya, sorry you had such a rotten day! Maybe your husband needs some relief from his care-giving, his job is hard too. I've been scheduling time off for my caregiver and getting friends here as needed to cover. Helps my relationship for sure! Keep up the rehab, I think it will help you to feel better about life in general. And remember that the recovery is a marathon, not a sprint :) Take care

Sanya - So sorry to hear about what you're going through. Major surgery is hard enough to recover from, but it's a lot harder when your husband isn't supportive. Is there anyone else who can step in and help take care of you? I will be keeping you in my prayers.

Thank you all for your love, thoughts and blessings. After 12 hours alone and a night on the sofa, a good talking to from his mom, he seems to understand that stress could compromise my recovery and has agreed to knock it off. I had stayed with my dad for 5 weeks post recovery and so this was hub's 1st week as primary. He works 7-3 each day and took nice naps after work so I just think he needed a reality check. I believe God's hand protects me and He is ensuring peace for me. After all, when the doctors hold our hearts in their hands only God can truly guide them. Thank you again everyone. PS I waited to take Metoprolol as suggested above and avoided morning dizziness. Ty.

I took care of my mother after she came home from the hospital because she refused to go to a rehab facility. In retrospect, I think it was a mistake. For many weeks, her moods were off, she hated her diet, and at one point she called me the "health Nazi." I was overwhelmed and scared I would screw up her meds, not do her vitals right or call them in when required (because she would not get up so I could do them), and that if complications arose (and they did), I would not know what to do. The packets of care instructions that the nurses rushed through were also scary. If your husband isn't one to pick fights normally, this may be how he copes with stress. If you are not feeling "yourself," this may be scary for him, too. Is it possible to take him to cardiac rehab with you? Perhaps seeing how hard you are trying (and maybe being able to ask the therapists questions) would help him?

Im sorry Sanya. I hope things start to go better for you. Rehab should improve things. Nothing like moving and being near people who are going through the same issues. Sounds like maybe your husband was a little overwhelmed too. I hope you can help each other. Hang in there. Hugs.💞🙏🏻